Ashes in Art: Your Most Asked Questions Answered. When someone we love passes away, we are left holding something they once were — and trying to decide how to honour them in a personal and meaningful way. For many people, cremation has become the most common choice. And yet what follows — the question of the ashes — often lingers long after the funeral. Some keep them on a shelf or scatter them at sea. Some feel uncertain or unwilling to let go, yet unsure how to hold on. I a